What They Forgot To Teach You At School
'We may simply never have heard adults around us speaking an emotionally mature dialect. So we may – despite our age – need to go back to school and spend 5 to 10,000 hours learning, with great patience and faith, the beautiful and complex grammar of the language of emotional adulthood.'
Do you know how many times people have said to me school days are the best days of your life? Too many times that I can’t remember.
And you know what I say to that? No, they were not the best days of my life.
Let me be honest with you. They were the worst days of my life.
Life started for me the day I finished school.
What would it mean to break the mould? What would it mean to finally leave school? These are the questions asked at the beginning of What They Forgot to Teach You at School.
Another chapter that I very much enjoyed and that stuck with me like glue was Love Yourself. I’m currently taking a self compassion course, and man, that stuff is really difficult. I’m like Pandora’s box when it comes to this. As the book states, ‘We are, most of us, supremely gifted at the art of self-hatred. If we treated a stranger the way we treat ourselves, we might be arrested for cruelty.’
The final two chapters that I highlighted and wanted to draw attention to, because I think they sit well together, are Be Free and There Is No Destination.
I’m really glad I was able to get a copy of this book since it aligns really well with what I’m working on in my self compassion group. Reading What They Forgot to Teach You at School has been a good reminder, drawing my attention again to those unhelpful thought patterns, that need for self-love, and the get the heck back down to earth reality check that there is no perfect destination.